It's been a moment since I've written a blog post. This is mostly because I took some time to re-evaluate my priorities, which at the time, were a series of transitions.
Transitioning from college to a new job. Leaving that job and transitioning to a new one. Transitioning from one apartment with my friends to a house with my family to another apartment with my boyfriend. And then getting engaged!
Letting go of people, places, and things.
Starting anew.
The other day, I realized that since my last post, there is so much that I have learned. There are so many things that I have yet to write, that I've planned to explore for a while now. But it wasn't the right time then.
Now, I feel as though I'm overflowing with knowledge and truth that I wish I could have shared with my past self. Things I wish she would have known.
In a way, this is why I once blogged so profusely. To not only share with readers but with my future self, guiding her along the way.
Or, in some strange sense, my past self, too.
There's been a lot of change, and there's a lot of change yet to come. Sometimes, life can bring you the unexpected. This may be good, and it may be bad. But the best thing you can do for yourself is rise up, learn from all situations, and continue on, stronger than before.
What I've Learned
23 things, in celebration of turning 23
You're not going to please everyone, no matter how hard you try.
Put your own mental and physical health needs first. You cannot be truly there for others if you can't be there for yourself.
Sometimes more is just that: More.
You might be afraid to let something go because you fear that you'll have nothing else. For a moment, this could be true; you might drift a long way before you find something else. Just hold on a little longer. You'll get there.
Evaluate who is good for you, and who is not. If people are pulling you down rather than lifting you up, say goodbye. Life is too short, plain and simple.
Replace unhealthy coping mechanisms with healthy ones, like deep breathing, taking a 15-minute walk, or sipping a cup of herbal tea.
Sleep is the ultimate priority. I'm serious. Miss your workout, turn off the TV, and get a full night's rest.
You will always adapt to change. Some adjustments may just take longer than others.
You are never trapped. Find a way out.
Incorporate morning and night routines to add structure to a busy life.
Check up on your friends. Reach out first sometimes. Be reliable, on time, and have patience. Understand their needs and expectations as well as your own. Good relationships are important.
Sit in silence for a few moments, every day.
Your opinion is valid, too. Use your voice. You might just surprise yourself.
Alcohol is not necessary to have a good time.
Drink the recommended amount of water each day, and you'll feel better than ever before. Aim for at least 8 glasses.
Wake up early to work out. You'll focus much better during the workday. (That is, if you've gotten enough sleep.)
Cherish the time you spend with your family and friends.
Stretch in the evening, every night, before bed. Trust me.
You are exactly where you are supposed to be, right now.
You are stronger than you think.
Track your habits daily.
Oh, and start small. Do what you can every day or week, and build from there. If you overwhelm yourself with too big of ambitions, you'll struggle to get it done. Then, it's not really a healthy habit, and more like a chore.
When you feel anxious, take three deep breaths and write down what you're feeling. Respond to yourself as a nurturing friend would.
What are some things that you've learned?
I hope you have a wonderful evening. I'll talk again soon!
Probably writing,
Brittney